Hi Kelly,
Firstly I'm sure your husband loves you very much, how we often feel about ourselves does not reflect how other people see you. Have you spoke to your husband about how you are feeling?
What matters is that you are comfortable with your body not anyone else and if you would like to make changes go grab them with determination FOR YOU.
Accept yourself now that's your biggest step or it can be a long journey.
Think positive about who you are and the changes you want to make.
Make them happen.
Don't go for the kill, create small goals.
In the end when it sinks in you will just feel good about yourself as you reach those mini goals regardless.... for me it wasn't just about losing 4.5 stone it was the mental buzz I got from reaching those mini goals. I stopped feeling depressed and started feeling in control, I was succeeding, I was doing something for me.
Welcome to the forum. I hope you stick around and find the support you need, you aren't alone