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May 26th '17, 13:51 PM  
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I'm desperate, I'm tired, I need your help!

Hello, I'm new here and I need some moral support and/or wisdom from you, guys!

I'm 23 and all my life I've been somewhat fighting my weight and self image. Not to go too deep into details- I've been through binge eating/starving, went down the "I messed up again- but I guess if I puke It'll fix it and NEXT TIME I'll be better" road, managed to stop it on my own, then went the "24/7 fitness and diet" road for a change. I was 21 at the time and had some divine strenght in me. I found HIIT workouts, I started counting calories, I gave up alcohol for almost 6 months- and I looked and felt GREAT. But, as the time passed by, I started to be so tired of it. Because, let's face it- 1,200 cal/day, HIIT workouts every second day, no alcohol is NOT sustainable. It gave me some fast results, but let me tell you- it was physically and mentally exhausting. And the worst part was that I just couldn't give up on it, because of the fear of going back to my previous weight. I guess my real problem was my lack of acceptance for myself.

Now it's better. I still have pretty high standards towards my weight, but I see these destructive mechanisms the moment they show up. And, throughout the time I took to take a break from obsessing over my looks, I gained some weight- nothing crazy, but enough to make my summer clothes fit a bit worse than before And for the first time, I don't feel the urge to run 10km a day and count every single calorie, which is such a relief and success for me.

But here's the thing- even though I've been searching all over the Internet, I can't seem to find any sensible advice on how to lose weight in a healthy, sustainable way that won't make me want to kill for a teaspoon of sugar after a week and eventually eat a whole cake. I'm not interested in any specific diets- I was on Dukan diet for over a year and it was NOT fun, especially since I couldn't keep the weight off after finishing it. I just want to know what REAL people, not fitness gurus who look like celebrities for a living and basically advise to do the same, do to lose a bit of excess weight when they go a bit crazy with treating themselves. I really don't want to go into that whole "ok, it's time to get FIT FOR SUMMER!" mindset, because a) I'm afraid I'll go way too intense into that again, and b) I find that these super specific regimes give you the effects you want... but then what??? I either go back to old habits or keep dieting until I can't do it anymore, then binge, then panick and go back on the diet... You know the drill.

I'm so sorry this post is so long. I just wanted to explain everything properly and help you understand my problem a bit better, because I really feel like I need to... well, I need to learn how to function in a normal way. It sounds horrible, but it's a step forward, right?

Thank you so much for any help or comments
May 26th '17, 17:30 PM  
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Join Date: Jun 2013
Posts: 68

Hi hunny I'm sorry to hear that you've struggled for so long but happy that you managed to loose the weight.
I think the key to maintaining (not that I can talk coz I piled all my weight back on lol) is to not think of things as a constant diet, but to embrace a change in lifestyle. A mad 500kcal a day diet or such like isn't sustainable. But swapping foods is. For example swap normal bread for the warbotans thins, swap sausages for turkey or chicken sausage. Try not to deprive yourself of things you like (alcohol for example) but swap wine for vodka and all in moderation.
I hope u find a more comfortable way to continue to loose weight but keep feeling healthy xx
May 26th '17, 18:43 PM  
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Join Date: May 2017
Location: Swindon
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Hey Pieskotkura

Quick question before I move on - Do you feel like you've learned anything from the diets you've been on? For example, do you know how calories, protein, carbohydrates and fat effect your weight?

I'm glad you're looking for a sensible method to lose weight. As someone who works closely with a lot of people losing weight, when starting a diet, most people go straight to the 1200 kcals mark and wonder why they feel terrible.

Realistically, most of us eat way more than this - and 1200 is a massive drop.

If you look at most of the diets out there, they all have a similar theme running through them..

- Prioritize protein at each meal
- Eat a good variety of fruits and veg
- Eat to your preference
- Consume less calories than you burn
- Eat 'naughty' foods - just not in the amounts you'd like

These are really the foundations you should be working on. Do you feel like you're nailing these on the head?
May 28th '17, 11:18 AM  
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Join Date: May 2017
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I'm 78 and still struggling, as Toonlass realistically says its a lifetime change and lets face it few of us are really capable of keeping this up. I was born just before WW2 and my parents were obsessive over getting as much food and nutrition into me as possible, so that even now when I can please myself I clean my plate at every meal.
One thing that someone suggested helped me, and that is to make myself wait 5 minutes before I indulge in that bar of chocolate or bag of crisps (I actually set a timer) and hope the craving goes away. (it doesn't always )
Are you exercising too much and could this be why you're tired?
Jun 17th '17, 13:15 PM  
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Based on my experience I suggest you to take less sugar, fat and take more proteins along with good workouts. Also, I suggest you to use spirulina which helps to reduce weight and rich source of protein removes tiredness from your body
Jun 18th '17, 11:58 AM  
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What is spirulina?
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